Bondage is the art of restraint. it is not S&M, it is not pup play, it is not rubber, it is not leather and it is not slavery and it drives me crazy when people I meet constantly try and force those stereotypes on me.
I don’t think a lot of these guys realise that not only am I not into those things but they’re actually a turn off. You can be the best looking guy on earth but tell me you’re into pup play or want to wear a rubber gimp suit and my desire to see you tied up vanishes. Completely. Forever. My eyes see you in a different light and that can’t be undone. My fantasies lie in reality where the average man you see on the street gets jumped and playfully tied up by his mates. That sort of thing. Put that man in leather chaps or a harness gag and I just think urgh. It’s a personal thing I know but after 13 years of doing this I’m just tired of having to explain that to people. Over and over and over.
I have absolutely nothing against kinks, fetishes and lifestyle choices. Nothing at all. Different strokes for different folk but tieguyuk is my website and for over a decade people have pushed and pushed and pushed their lifestyle choices on me as if I’m duty bound (no pun intended) to participate in them. I don’t want to. Please get it in your head. It isn’t because I don’t know what I’m missing. To want to try something you have to at least be curious about it otherwise you wouldn’t try it in the first place. I’m not curious. At all. No part of me has any interest in those things. No part means nothing. Nothing means zero. Zero means that not even 1% of me is even a little bit interested in hearing about your ‘master’ or your ‘pup’ or the amazing latex catsuit you just had custom made. Are you getting this yet? I couldn’t be less interested.
You’re into what you are into. I’m into what I am into.
So instead of acting like I don’t know what I’m missing please just accept that I am very very aware of the choices I can make in this world and I am very capable of making them without your pity, ignorance or arrogance.
You wouldn’t force feed someone an apple if they only liked oranges just because you preferred them. Though I dare say there’s a fetish for that…
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This post raises the very same issues i have with the world of Hypnosis! It could very well be my own rant about hypno, very well put and my views exactly!
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